Being Right is Not Always “Right”

Being RIght

Being Right: Sometimes it’s about┬ákeeping the peace.

If you knew me in my early twenties you wouldn’t have wanted to become entangled in an argument. I would pull out all the stops just to prove my argument was the best. It didn’t matter to me how you felt afterwards.

Deep down I wanted to be right, and I want people to know I was right. I think this is human nature. What I’ve learned over the years is that it’s not always about being right; sometimes it’s about keeping the peace.

Dale Carnegie has a wonderful explanation in Part Three of his critically acclaimed book “How To Win Friends and Influence People” In a nutshell, it comes down to picking the right battle. Being right at that specific time may not be what is important. Trivial discussions are not worth ruining friendships over. If you’re going to argue make sure the prize is worth the fight. That last sentence is more of my opinion.

At the end of the day what matters are the friendships you have created, strengthened, and maintained.

Thoughts? Please comment below.

-Thomas
thomas@thomasmiller.me