Plenty of time.
Once a week I have about an hour and a half commute to another property owned by my employer. This drive gives me plenty of time to think. My thoughts usually range from personal goals to how I could have handled different situations. Tonight my thoughts were on dealing with conflict.
Here’s what my Sunday School teacher taught me.
A few years back while in a church Sunday School class someone asked the question “What do you do if someone does something you don’t agree with, but you don’t want to cause conflict in your relationship?” A few moments passed and the teacher said one of the best phrased answers I’ve heard. He said “When faced with a situation where you don’t know how to proceed, always approach it with love. Remember, love they neighbor.” The whole class was silent for what seemed like several seconds thinking about what he said.
When you don’t know what to do, go with “love”.
What he said stuck with me. While not easy, it’s often been the best advice I’ve ever had. Instead of always trying to be right, or prove your points, sometimes you just need to listen. Sometimes you should just let the person have the last word. Ask yourself if it’s worth it. Is it going to be your hill to die on? Approaching everything from a loving perspective will greatly enhance how you interact with other people.
4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant,5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 [a]bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NASB)